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Rekindling a dream

Rekindling a dream

Like a tsunami betrayal washes over me, taking everything I have believed in, hoped for, and trusted in with it. Destroying everything. My parents won’t allow me to become a visual artist. I was certain that they would support me. I was wrong. A deep hopelessness...

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Things I have remembered since I’ve started to run

Things I have remembered since I’ve started to run

1. If I want different results I need to do things differently For years I have unsuccessfully used willpower to get myself to run consistently. I like running yet it took me some time to see that I didn’t like running alone. When I used EFT Emotional Freedom...

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What you think about yourself matters

What you think about yourself matters

Even though I am at a family gathering, I feel alone. I listen in to the conversations. I find them shallow. I hate it when people talk about other people. It’s not even just talking harshly about others. It’s the comparisons, the comments about other’s choices and...

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I went MiA Missing in Austria for ten weeks

I went MiA Missing in Austria for ten weeks

I left Canada in the beginning of May on hiatus and I went missing in action. I had plans to review the course that I had taken, read books for work, get new customers, walk every day, bike every day, write every day, draw every day,eat well, lose weight, write tons...

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Life goes on. With or without you

Life goes on. With or without you

It’s so much easier to disconnect from a partner in advance, because of fear of rejection. We step back, scared, worried and expect to be hurt. We assume that they will reject us, because sometimes they did say no to spending time with us or making love. Somehow it’s...

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How our assumptions about ourselves shape our future

How our assumptions about ourselves shape our future

Very early in our lives we make assumptions about ourselves. Either on our own or somebody makes a comment about us and we believe what they say. I learned very early on in my life that strangers are helpful and benevolent. I also was able to feel at home away from...

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You know you

You know you

I might as well give up. What am I doing here? I don't know what I am doing. Totally shocked I realized that a strong comment of disagreement by a stranger had almost made me quit my business. My earliest memory of trusting someone's opinion more than mine is when I...

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The emotional tightrope walk that Highly Sensitive People face

The emotional tightrope walk that Highly Sensitive People face

Some HSP ( Highly Sensitive Person kids quickly learn to suppress their feelings when they hear, “you are so sensitive, you are too emotional or don’t exaggerate”, because they feel like they are too much and don’t fit in. On the other hand, some of them go the other...

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You should know what I need

You should know what I need

Let's be honest. We expect our partner to know how we feel.To always understand us. To accommodate our needs. Which is impossible. They can’t read our minds. We don’t even know how we feel or what we want many times. Yet we try harder and harder to make our partner...

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How we break promises we never made

How we break promises we never made

It doesn’t make a difference for me which car you buy he said. She had really liked a black sports car. It surprised her just how much she wanted to drive that car. Tears suddenly welled up in her eyes. You never get excited about the things that I like she thought....

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Why can’t you ever take a joke?

Why can’t you ever take a joke?

He teased her. Ha, ha very funny, she thought but she couldn’t say it. She knew it was a joke. Yet she felt criticized. The opportunity to react differently, slipped through her tired fingers. With anyone else she could have laughed. Not with him. Every time he jokes...

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When seeking love makes you blind

When seeking love makes you blind

Most of my life I thought that my Dad doesn’t love me. Over the years I tried to impress him, show off my accomplishments in order to get him to say it. He never did. I had been so convinced that he didn’t love me that I had missed so many signs. He is a very quiet,...

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Why are you always so sensitive about everything?

Why are you always so sensitive about everything?

“What’s wrong with me”? whispers the familiar voice in her head. “I will never get this right. It will never change. I will always be too sensitive, too much.” She wants to run away but she can’t hide from herself. She is lying in bed, beating herself up. Her partner...

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Why would anyone ever cross this bridge?

Why would anyone ever cross this bridge?

We were standing in a public washroom. My hands and knees where shaking. I was close to tears. I was overtaken with fear. All I wanted to do was take off all the climbing gear and walk away. “Mama, you hiked up a mountain when you where three years old, you can do...

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Is it time to take off those old boots?

Is it time to take off those old boots?

I have beautiful, brown, high heeled, lace up winter boots my sister gave me. In those boots I feel tall and elegant, I love the way I feel when I wear them. My knees and hips don’t. Yet, I keep wearing them. The pain prompted me to think about wanting to follow in...

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Are you attaching labels to others or yourself?

Are you attaching labels to others or yourself?

Growing up in Austria, I often heard people making fun of the way people in the south of my province Styria, speak. In my mind, making fun of them separated us, believing that we Northerners are better and different. I never thought too much about it, until I moved to...

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Encouragement versus Feedback

Encouragement versus Feedback

Expectantly the seven year old girl showed the family friend, a visual artist her drawing. She felt great about her creation.“Nice, but look at those lines, they should all go into the same direction” he said and drew them differently. She was shocked and offended...

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Sometimes a couch isn’t just a couch

Sometimes a couch isn’t just a couch

The couch in our house is old, worn out and uncomfortable. Yet, I have been having a very hard time replacing it with a new one. Surprisingly, as I was talking about throwing out the couch my eyes welled up with tears. I know that I need to replace it. But I don't...

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Is hard work necessary?

Is hard work necessary?

Only hard work is valued and appreciated in our society. Remember the last time you told someone that a project was easy, like child’s play? I bet the first reaction was envy. Then it turned into skepticism. It was implied that you didn’t do a thorough job. That you...

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Are your feelings lost in translation?

Are your feelings lost in translation?

Have you ever tried to explain to someone how you feel and they just couldn’t relate? You use different examples to clarify the depth of your feeling, yet they still can’t get you. It feels like you are talking in a different language. Even though they want to...

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